It does not really matter what your sexuality is or how you approach obstacles in the relationships – the latter would always be a minefield for any couple. The greatest problem is that people do not tend to reveal their real face, and we figure things out in the very long run: some might be plain wrong, some would realize that it’s better to keep it in the friendship phase, and some eventually come across as inappropriate partners. However, gay guys have to pay even more attention to build successful relationships.
Do not push too hard
Coming out is a very subtle process because of not universal acceptance from the majority, which is pretty sad to understand. If you happen to be an open gay whereas your partner is not, never try to break through this. Give your guy some time for bold decisions. Arguing over daylight relationship status will not do good to you both.
Happy relationships are the ones where partners are constantly being honest with each other. If you seek for a quick hookup, tell how the things are really going. Also, lots of ‘newbie’ gays happen to be occasional explorers and test their sexuality not with online quizzes, but with people. And it may break someone’s heart or lead you both into sorrowful delusions.
Forget the past
We all have come to wrong decisions. We all to some extent regret about situations from the past. If your partner used to be 100% straight, but then suddenly dealt with the reality, do not blame him for that because there are definitely things in your history you’d like to forget, too. Be positive and embracing, support your partner in his sexuality and do not build utopian idylls about ‘gays are born, not made’.
Go with the flow
Overall, it is important not to overthink complicated issues, not to stick to plans and not to follow some certain patterns. Become a master of spontaneous things and let everything be. Being a control freak with concrete intentions would ruin the connecting thread between you two. Try to be flexible and adjust to problems right when the time comes – not beforehand.